Dating for singles with cancer
I'm proud of what I've overcome, and my life is refreshingly "normal," but dating is still a careful dance.
At times it's a struggle because I don't want to feel like I'm hiding anything, and yet, I have to remind myself that hearing about one of these health "bumps" can be a lot to process when you're first getting to know someone, let alone a heart attack, heart transplant, leg amputation, and two bouts of cancer.
I was still recovering from the idea that I could die.
I didn't want anyone else thinking that when they looked at me.
By the time I was picking up the keys to my sophomore year dorm room, I'd finished my first round of chemo and could barely speak above a whisper because the cancer had spread to my throat.
I've found it's important to give yourself and your body the permission to rest when you need it, and not to beat yourself up about it when you do.
At 25, my non-Hodgkin returned as Burkitt's lymphoma.
During my eight months of treatment, I was out of the hospital one week each month, and I made the most of it.
In my next blog installment, I'll talk about some of the approaches I've found effective in figuring out when and how to tell a date about cancer and other health issues.
Not everyone feels up to dating during cancer treatment.