Rules of online dating for women
And according to Spira, it should be sooner rather than later.
Exchanging two or three e-mails is a good way to get a sense of each other's personality.
), but it gives the impression that you have nothing to hide; confidence is always attractive.
So, assume that your interest hasn't had time to open your message.
"I equate online dating to looking for a job," says Julie Spira, cyber-dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
"You'd want a rock star résumé for your perfect dream job, and you should feel the same way about your online dating profile." And the profile is just where it starts—we have plenty of expert tips, from sending the perfect first e-mail to picking your first date location.
The shortest messages get the best response rate; the reply rate goes down as messages get longer.
This is likely because an initial message serves mostly to make your profile available to the other person.